Category Archives: Self Help

Patience & Joy

God has been speaking to me tonight about two things in particular.  Patience and joy!

To just look for the Grace of my God…Seeking the presence of my Savior in the midst of trials instead of asking for a way of escape. That’s all I’ve done up until this point, ask for ways out. But what if there’s some growing here? Maybe I can’t see the blessings in this wilderness? Oh! But He’s NEVER failed me, and HE IS FAITHFUL! He said He’d never leave me nor forsake me, and I BELIEVE HIM!

I am now (in this actual moment as I write. Thank YOU, HOLY SPIRIT for this revelation!) beginning to see that I am uncomfortable giving up the control I believed I had. I had scenarios planned out and what I thought the answers to all my problems looked like ready in my head, but God had other plans. I guess I am in the process of learning to actually trust God and loosen my grip on everything. The fact that I am able to sit and type this shows He has sustained me and brought me this far in the wilderness I have been walking in for a little while now. THANK YOU JESUS FOR SAVING ME!!!

I know He is doing something in the midst of the pain and darkness. There is purpose for our pain in Christ! Everything will work out for our good in JESUS!

James 1:2-4 (KJV)

My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

Hebrews 12:1-11 (KJV)

1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?

But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?

10 For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.

11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

Romans 5:1-5 (KJV)

1 Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:

By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.

And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;

And patience, experience; and experience, hope:

And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.


Romans 8:28 (KJV) And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

 

Beautiful

Post by Lynn Cowell

The gate called Beautiful might be the scale we hope will tell us the right number, the gym we join to become the right size or the mall we cruise through looking for the right outfit.

We go to the gate Beautiful and there we beg for what we need for that day: acceptance, approval and affirmation. It’s not enough to sustain us, though. Tomorrow, searching again, we’ll return.

With the power of the Holy Spirit we can say: “No more!” No more will we beg when Christ died to give us the acceptance we need. Let’s take His hand and look to Him each day for strength and approval.

You are perfect just the way God made you. That’s enough. You’re enough, precious one.

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I Guess I Wasn’t “Fine”

Glynnis Whitwer By GLYNNIS WHITWER

“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1a (NLT)

Standing on the risers in my grade school auditorium, the girl next to me scanned the audience, desperately looking for her father. Her parents were divorced and her dad had let her down more than once. He said he’d show up this time. But as the director’s hands signaled our final note, and there was no father in sight, my friend’s face revealed her pain.

My dad wasn’t in the audience, but I didn’t expect him. My mom was there. And my dad? Well … he was home, probably reading a book. But compared to my friend’s sadness, my disappointment was minor, I thought.

For so many years, I compared my growing up experience to others’, and thought, I’ve got nothing to complain about. Surely, I must be “fine.” Others had it so much worse than I did.

Sure, my dad never attended any of my choir concerts or saw me sing (from third grade through high school), but my mom never missed one.

Although my dad wasn’t involved in my day-to-day life, my mom was my number-one problem solver.

And even though my dad never said he loved me, I didn’t think I needed to hear those words. After all, my mother’s love more than made up for it.

Other friends had missing or cruel fathers. They’d been openly rejected. Their parents divorced. Their house was chaotic. Not mine. I’d just had a quiet overlooking. One that I accepted as normal.

And I really did believe my father loved me in his own way. I held no bitterness. His own father had died in an accident before he was born. Even as a child, I knew he didn’t have any father examples.

I was fine.

Yet over time, an independent streak took root. A hardness grew that kept me isolated from needing or wanting help. I developed a “pull yourself up by your boot straps” mentality that impacted my opinion of others who needed help, and my own weaknesses.

I never connected it with my father’s passivity. I genuinely thought I was doing fine. Until someone challenged me to consider the impact my human father had on my relationship with my Heavenly Father.

Only then did I consider the impact of all I had missed. No tender moments, no champion, no confiding of worries or requests for help. No father-daughter dates or advice on a boyfriend.

The honesty caused a pain that surprised me. And I struggled with that same feeling of guilt as I compared myself to others and the truly hard lives they had. I didn’t want to dishonor my father. But I’d opened a door I knew God wanted open. So I pressed in to the honesty.

My little-girl heart had tried to heal itself by developing an inner strength. Only that “strength” built a wall, instead of a bridge, to God’s heart.

My independence had kept me from a deeper relationship with God. I loved God, but I didn’t really trust Him with my heart or my problems. He was a distant Father to me, more like a king on a throne than a Daddy holding my hand.

Yet once I allowed the door of my heart to open, it started to soften as I forced myself to admit that in reality, I wasn’t fine. I did need help, and in a way my independence simply couldn’t provide. I confessed the hurt and pain that I had covered up in fierce self-sufficiency.

And God whispered words of truth. He reminded me …

… I never missed a choir performance.

… You can come to Me for help; I’ll be there before you finish your request.

… I started saying “I love you” thousands of years ago.

Today’s key verse tells us God loves us as His children. So as an adult, I had to learn what it was like to have a Daddy who loved me perfectly.

As God continues to prove Himself faithful, I’ve admitted this truth: Sometimes the pain from what didn’t happen is as real as the pain from what did.

The healing I initially didn’t know I needed has made me a better person. But it’s still a work in progress. I still struggle to admit any weakness. And yet every time I do, I experience the realness of God’s love anew. My heart is becoming more merciful, gracious and kind … to others and myself.

If you’ve dismissed your pain as insignificant compared to others, I invite you to experience the same healing I’ve received. God wants to fill in all those missing pieces and be your perfect Father.

Heavenly Father, thank You for loving me so perfectly and seeing that my heart needed Your tender healing. And thank You for being the perfect Father for me for eternity. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Psalm 34:18, “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (NIV)

1 John 4:16, “So we have known and believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them.” (NRSV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
TODAY is the first day of our Online Bible Study featuring Suzie Eller’s book, The Mended Heart: God’s Healing for Your Broken Places. There’s still time to join if you’re ready to accept God’s healing for your deepest hurts. Click here for more information.

Visit Glynnis Whitwer’s blog for more encouragement.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Glynnis said, “Sometimes the pain from what didn’t happen is as real as the pain from what did.” What is missing from your life that causes you deep pain?

Present that pain to your Heavenly Father, and allow Him to fill in all the missing pieces.

© 2015 by Glynnis Whitwer. All rights reserved.

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Literally Gonna Be Out of This World…

Jesus is coming soon for His Bride, are you ready? It’s literally going to be out of this world…

We’re going to a place where we are loved beyond measure with joy unspeakable. No more tears. No more will the people of this world tell us we’re not good enough or pretty enough. We will be changed in the blink of an eye. Our new bodies incorruptible and perfect. Immortal in Paradise.

Scars are gone. No more eating disorders or mental illnesses. No more disease.The paralyzed and amputees will walk and run. Living in perfect peace. No fear.

The deaf will hear the sweetest singing of angels, and the blind will behold the most breathtaking view from Mansions on high. And to be right there with The Almighty, and with our King, Lord Jesus Christ…I cannot imagine how great the comfort and relief.

Things are really shaking and quaking around the world. The final pieces of the last days puzzle are being put into place. Our Earth is about to endure a 7 year Tribulation. Hell on earth. People are protesting so strongly in Baltimore right now. I believe that the Baltimore riots taking place and those now happening in other cities are linked to all of the military activity in this Jade Helm 15 thing. If you haven’t heard, I suggest you look it up. Riots busting out right now nationwide + the Jade Helm/military events going on = no coincidence. A lot of us have been watching what’s going on behind the scenes. It’s about to get pretty crazy. Martial Law…?

So many people are oblivious to the reality that we live in today. This is far from the America I grew up in and knew as a child, and I’m 30 years old!

While the majority of the common people in the world sleep, the powers that be are wide awake.

Now is the time to prepare for the future. Hopefully you will consider Jesus right now if you have not done so already. It can save your life…eternally.

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God Bless

A New Heart

The Power of God is beyond our understanding. The things He has in store for those that love Him and obey is mind-blowing. It’s out of this world. Literally…

No matter how much pain you are in, no matter how broken your life seems to be…God can restore you. He will.

Praise His Holy name…

I will never, ever be the same.

Lookin’ For Love?

Its amazing. Its marvelous. Its life-changing. Once you experience it, you are never, ever the same.

Scientists say we have internal chemical reactions to hugs. If your hug is with a potential lover to your likings, you will feel butterflies as they say as well 😛 That kind of hug is a deep rush, I think. When you embrace your grandma, your mother, a best friend, or significant other, you feel this soothing connection between both your hearts.

The empathy your dog has for you. Over time he has picked up on your moods with your body language and observed behavior. Maybe you’re stressed or upset and you lie down or curl up on the couch, ball up full of stress and raw emotion. Your dog comes over to you and likely nudges your hand so you will pet him. Maybe he taps you with his paw. Whatever the case, he feels your pain. So much of the time when I am sad my dog will even whimper with me. We share the pain. And that feeling…to be understood. Its so comforting. The world can be falling apart, but if you have some sort of comfort like that you are somehow stronger.

The high school teacher, coach, or band director who went the extra mile, working after school. After hours. After hours to make you better. To make you who you are today. Some people have very little support at home. Sometimes the leadership acquired in after school groups and activities, or lessons learned from our educators light a fire inside our hearts. Maybe before you didn’t try as hard, you weren’t motivated enough to give it your all, make goals & strive to achieve them. But somebody believed in you. Another soul expressed concern for your life, assisted you on the stairway of your life at the time. There’s nothing like feeling that somebody cares about you.

This brings me to my point. Our Source.

Our Source is Love. These examples described above are all accounts of love expressed in different ways. But it gets deeper, you know.

Love = Our Source is our Creator, God AlmightyHe is Love itself, and everything good, everything of loving nature, stems from our Father in Heaven.

So, if you’re looking for love, if you feel hurt and broken, like nobody cares…maybe you would choose to turn to God. His love is unlike any other. The love of God is unconditional, bold and daring. Life changing and earth shaking. If you open up and let God do what He can and will with your life, I promise you will not be disappointed. He’s a sure shot! He always delivers. He proved it on The Cross when Jesus died for all of us. All of mankind. Its truly worth thinking about and looking into. Because if you look close enough and hard enough, you just might fall right back in love with God. There it begins. The beginning of that relationship. The beginning of knowing God. Knowing Him as your Father. As more than a word in a book. He is very real and He is waiting to put His mighty Hand on your life and do extraordinary things if you take that step.

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Why I read the Bible: How I see the Word of God Today

This dawned on me tonight, so I made a poster for it.

My attitude toward the Bible…the Word of God, has changed dramatically in the last year, more than ever. For many years I had the wrong attitude toward reading or studying the Bible. I sort of wrote it off as something I couldn’t understand without being at Church. It was just over my head, and the old English didn’t help. It wasn’t but a couple of years after my Baptism that my Bipolar disorder symptoms began to surface, and in that time I lost interest in things I cared for most.

I honestly disregarded the Psalms because I counted them as a bunch of poems or songs that really didn’t matter as much as the rest. I gave Proverbs the most credit as it seemed pretty easy for me to understand. But you know, you can open the Bible to a random spot and find yourself in the middle of the story of a particular person or leader, a battle, and all sorts of situations, including Jesus.  These people, stories, and situations have a background, and it is possible to figure ’em out! It can and will really make sense if you simply give it some of your time and dedication.

I was way off!!!

There is reiteration in this Holy Word, so if you pay attention, you can really see what God is telling us. Now I look at the Bible as The Official Guideline, and Only True Self Help Book (in my words) for living a full, happy life on earth, and especially into a Grand, Beautiful, Eternal One that we cannot comprehend in our mortal form. It is a handbook for anything and everything concerning all matters of this life, Salvation, and the next one.

I think that the main point I wanted to bring about is that I didn’t think I, personally, would ever be able to find help for what I called modern day problems here. The Truth is, over time, and with the more attention you give the Word of God, you see it differently.

There are all sorts of Bible study guides for people, like me, who need some help getting started. There are Bible dictionaries and References so that we can better understand. The study guide that I first picked up was Stuck by Jennie Allen.  I found it at a Christian bookstore…actually it found me, but that’s another post.

Bible study guides are awesome! Whether you’re a Christian or not, reading the Bible can become something extraordinary, and light up your life. You can pray for understanding and guidance, and the Holy Spirit is sure to follow. I just really wanted to share my former attitude toward the Word of God for what it was. Now, my Bible is no longer just a book on my shelf. It’s a part of my daily life. Out of Its case! …Unless for protection or travel 🙂

& If you don’t have a case, you’ve just got  faster and easier access! ❤

I hope you find this post encouraging and helpful. If so, perhaps you will share with another, the idea of how approaching and handling the Word differently changes things, forever.

God bless!

Eating Disorders…& Hope

divein justbelieve kindnesstoself lifeaftered morethandisorder motivation1 motivation2 motivation3 motivation4 recoverydiagram remudafearrecover resttoweary scalestoffish selfcareGood morning, dear friends! These images are to inspire all of you today. Especially those of you who are struggling with eating disorders and Body Dysmorphic Disorder, or any self esteem issue—whatever it is that your very being is wrestling with right now.

I want you to know that, as someone who has found recovery and been living it out for over 7 years, you can overcome the darkest of times, the worst of situations, and the struggles that you think there is no way out of–there is. There are tools & peer support to make it through. If you aren’t able or don’t feel like facing people in real life for support or groups, there are ones online, and forums for you 🙂

Here is my favorite website for our struggle. Its full of awesome things to help you through this. There is much to see and do:

Click below,

The National Eating Disorders

This organization has: campaignd for prevention, improved access to quality treatment, and increased research funding to better understand and treat eating disorders. We work with partners and volunteers to develop programs and tools to help everyone who seeks assistance. *via the website

On the home page of this blog, at the top, there is a parent category called Eating Disorders & Recovery. There you will find my personal Recovery story, and maybe some things you can take with you on your own personal journey.

I hope this post inspires you in some way. That is my prayer.

God bless you in every way. You can do this. Remember, you are not over. Your heart is beating, and you are breathing, full of life. Your mission for this world has not yet been carried out. There are great things ahead for you beyond that wall… 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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You Are Someone’s Miracle

We begin as blank slates, fresh from the womb, knowing nothing, spotless. Wherever we wind up after that and a bunch of psychology to boot determines how our personality, and the very perception of ourselves develop. There is so much information, theory etc… with that sort of thing. That’s not my point tonight, though. Even on my best day, at this point in my life I would be unable to really deliver a textbook explanation.

But you know, no matter what, we are absolutely 100% able to rise above and beyond our childhoods, troubling life lessons learned the hard way throughout the years like bullying or abuse. I’m not saying it will be just wiped away from our hurting minds and hearts. What I am saying is that though you may still carry the dark or troubling events & people that have hurt you, and the fact that even now, after all these years it still stings…You can rise above it all. The lingering pain can be healed. You can come to a true place of peace in your heart, despite all the memories. The thing is, we have to do some work to find that peace and carry on that work to maintain it.

Reaching out to others, trusted loved ones, friends, family, a significant other…and professional help. I am a living testimony that therapy does work. It will work for you-but you will only reap as much as effort you put in with your counselor. Developing insight is just huge. Sometimes meds can make a dramatic impact. It may take time with trial and error as we are all made differently, but if it works for you, it is worth it. *All credit goes to Jesus Christ, The Son of God. He is the Great Physician, and the one I choose to serve. The things He has done for me I could never count on this earth.* The healing of my weary soul has everything to do with this.

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No statistics, no linking of articles or anything tonight. I just want to offer hope. That is the blessing that I have as an overcomer. If you are struggling with anything that haunts you, interfering with your daily life, and leads you to believe a lie, do not give up. Miracles happen every day. There is light within you, whether you see it or not.

You have it in you, precious soul, to be someone else’s miracle.

God bless

Salvation is free

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Joining the Gym in my hometown=Results

I’m submitting my income-based app to the local gym as soon as I speak with the director about the bottom part of the form which is confusing and kind of N/A. She’s supposed to call today. Woo! I hope my app gets processed asap! After yesterday’s getting dressed for the Thanskgiving dinner episode, Getting back to the physical activity that brought about great weight loss this year can no longer be delayed! I am not waiting until the new year, baby! I am ready now. I am tired of the disappointments.

My hubby and I moved out of the city (Horse capital of the world) down east to the mountains. We have been so busy getting settled in these past couple of months getting everything done-everything but signing up for gym memberships. Luckily, the constant work of moving and getting settled burned tons of calories to make up for the lack of a nice fitness routine. I was weighed at the ‘female doc’ when I went for an annual a couple weeks ago. My weight was still yet down, despite losing my walks down the straight, open terrain in the city, no gain.

If you’ve followed this blog for any amount of time you know that being a former Bulimic, having found recovery, I try and stay positive, keeping an optimistic and hopeful outlook on life. I do not obsess over numbers, nor do I currently own a scale. Being weighed at medical appointments is sufficient for me. In fact, it prevents me from sliding back to number obsessions…and I refuse to become a slave to a scale once again.

I really do need to lose weight. Back when I acted on the Bulimic and Anorexic behavior and such I was tiny, but with the aid of the Body Dysmorphia, I saw a girl 3 times as big! The first time I heard about BDD I was so very skeptical. So much, in fact that I laughed…But it is actually real!!! Our brains play tricks on us and we can actually see something that is completely inaccurate! Its not real though. This discrepancy causes pain for so many human beings for long periods of time. I am so glad that now I recognize what went on then. Now, according to logic and medical doctors I need to lose weight. I am not trying to shrink beyond reason by any means at all. The thing is…I am more comfy being me even though I know I’m a plus sized diva…hope I don’t loose this booty.

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I’m smart about this, so I know to start easy. I’m going to walk some pounds off, then eventually join the easiest exercise class for ladies. Someday I will be able to graduate on and on. Someday I will be able to run on that treadmill, not only walk. We must keep a great attitude. Attitude affects everything. Remember that.

 

Have a great “Black Friday” everyone! I am not going to any store of any sort-not brave enough. I do not want to be attacked over a sweater and all that.

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